Just knowing her and seeing how warm and gentle she is with everyone makes me want to be a better person. A friend of mine sent me an email that really hit home with me. It really made me stop and think and try to see who others see me as and if I see myself the same way. Here’s what she sent:
We judge others by their actions, but we judge ourselves by our intentions.
Yes, you meant to help someone with a project, you intended to give charity, you were planning on inviting your friends over for dinner, but if you didn’t do it, in their minds you had no intention, and you are judged as such. So start correcting this error. If you intend to do something – DO IT. Don’t procrastinate, don’t delay. Stop making excuses. You want to improve yourself, get out of your own way.
Now find someone you completely trust, who has your interest at heart and who can give you constructive criticism. It is often better for a friend to be this person than a spouse. And tell the person to try to remove personal bias (of how you may have hurt them or been inconsiderate). It has to be coming from a place of true concern for you. Ask them to let you know how they see you. Start with one area. Don’t take on your whole life at one time.
What you may realize is that you may not be perceived the way you perceive yourself. So work on correcting the balance and you will immediately feel more content and balanced inside. You can start changing your life for the better by starting to Think, Act and Speak differently!
It’s funny how my friend sent me this when I had already been thinking about the person I am verses the person I want to be. It’s something each and everyone of us should do from time to time. Take a good long hard look in the mirror and really try and see who you are and not just who you think you are. It’s not easy either but I’m trying to be a better ‘Me’.